What Adults Can Do For Children’s Anxiety Cheat Sheet
Declutter the home environment
Model Emotional Independence – Stress Contagion – You are in charge of managing your feelings
Provide Responsibilities and Praise Independence
Limit Electronic Device Use
Have a consistent morning and evening routine
Eat Real Food
Some stress is good
Take care of your own stress
Model what you want your children to do and be
Practice Finding What is Right
Pause, Meditate, Breathe
What We Teach at School
Change of State – Go for a walk
Get a drink of water
Find What Comforts You: Hugs, Cuddling in a Blanket, Talking to Someone, Listen to Music
Positive Self Talk
What Not to Do
Eat Sugar and Simple Carbohydrates
Negative Self Talk
Anxiousness is a learned trait
Anxiousness is part of a Belief Pattern
Beliefs are Hereditary – they are in our DNA
We Can Train Our Brains to Manage Anxiety
Anxiety Chemicals Released From the Body:
Increases production of cortisol and adrenaline
Cortisol – Designed to be used in situations of “acute stress” helps the body get ready for physical action
increases inflammation in the body
Temporarily activates immune system (tiger vs. bacteria)
Affects other hormones, DHEA, progesterone, estrogen
Love Chemicals Released in the Body:
Dopamine – increase in pleasure, motivation, decrease in sadness
Vasopressant – increase in sexuality, attraction and decrease in anxiety
Oxytocin – increase in trust, attachment and decrease in fear
Top Ten List - How to Raise an Anxious Child
Keep a Cluttered Space
Avoid all routines and predictability
Allow plenty of electronic time, especially evenings and bedtimes.
It is never your child’s responsibility. Make sure when something painful or uncomfortable happens, that you immediately fight their battles and protect them at all costs.
Provide no responsibilities or duties around the household.
Give them toys, money and food every time something difficult happens.
Feed them sweets, refined carbohydrates and fried foods. Avoid healthy fats, fruits and vegetables and protein
Hugging, physical contact, and positive eye contact are big no nos
Avoid physical activity, especially unstructured play and outdoor activities.
Don’t take care of your own anxiousness. Never take responsibility for your own feelings or circumstances. It is ALWAYS someone else’s fault.